Do You Want to Be a Better Parent?

  • Do you sometimes wonder if you are a good parent?
  • Do you want to have a better relationship with your child(ren)?
  • Do you find the demands of parenting difficult?
  • Do you know how to parent the different stages of your child(ren)’s development?

Becoming a parent for the first time is such a wonderful, exciting experience. You are full of anticipation as you embark on the incredible journey of being responsible for another human being’s growth and development. Like most parents, you probably quickly learned that it’s even more challenging than you originally thought, and you may wonder if you’re being the best parent you can be. When you talk to other parents you discover that there are many different parenting styles, and wonder if yours is right for your child.  Sometimes, your methods seem effective, but there are many other times when you feel like you’re doing it wrong, leaving you feeling stuck and confused. You know every child is different and you want to do the best for your child, but you just aren’t sure.

Being a Good Parent Is One of the Hardest Jobs

DANIELLE DETORA_Parent Consulting leavesIt would be nice if each child came with a clear, easy to read manual to guide you through his/her specific developmental stages. That way, whenever you have a question about parenting, you just open the book to the appropriate page and there it is — the definitive answer. Unfortunately such a manual does not exist and parents are left to figure it out themselves. Some people parent their child(ren) the way they were raised. Some parents raise their children in the exact opposite way they were raised. Some parents read as many parenting books as they can to better understand their child(ren) and become better parents. However you decide to take care of your family, there are no fast solutions or easy answers, and sometimes you need help.

One of the main reasons parenting is so challenging is because your children are always growing and changing. The parenting skills you use when your child is a toddler are different than the skills you use when your child is a teenager. And, every child is different, so what works for one child may not work for another, even within the same family, which can be very confusing at times. Good parenting requires being able to really know what your child needs, when s/he needs it, and how much s/he needs physically, emotionally, socially and intellectually.

The parent-child relationship can be difficult to define and navigate, and many parents assume that other parents are better equipped for the job. The reality is that, at times, all parents need help to improve their relationships with their kids. If you asked your child(ren) what they think of you, what do you think they would say? How do you think they perceive your relationship?

Good parenting is such a delicate balance of flexible yet firm boundaries, love, warmth, attachment and emotional support, and very few people are ever given the proper tools or instruction on how to be good parents. Even though you love your child(ren), you may not be parenting them in a way that is optimal for their growth and development. Do you know how to really listen to your child(ren) so they feel heard and understood by you?  Do you encourage and foster open communication in your household or have you forgotten how to talk and feel close to your kids? If you’re struggling to connect with your kids right now, parent counseling can teach you the skills to have a closer relationship with your child(ren) for now and in the future.

Parenting Consulting Can Help You Become a Better Parent

DANIELLE D_Parent consulting treeIf you are struggling as a parent, you are not alone. Sometimes, all parents need help. As a parent consultant, I provide a unique space outside the demands of daily life for you to discuss concerns about your child and your relationship with him/her. No matter what developmental stage your child is currently in, I can help provide you with a framework to better understand his/her needs, struggles and challenges, and how you can provide the best support possible.

I provide a very safe, compassionate and educational space that enables you to understand your child in ways you never have before. You will learn parenting tips and strategies that are in tune with your child’s developmental stage. You will also learn to communicate with your child in new, more effective ways. When your child feels more heard, understood and cared for, the results can be amazing. Your relationship with your child can undergo dramatic shifts that will likely lessen the challenges of parenting.

Parenting consulting can help you become the kind of parent you always wanted to be. Improving your parenting and communication skills will also help you feel more confident in your decisions and more emotionally connected to your child. With my help, we can find positive solutions to your current challenges.  With over 15 years as a psychologist (and a parent), I can help you become the best parent you can be.

Although you want to become a better parent, you may still have some questions and concerns about parent consulting…

If we are having problems with our child, shouldn’t we just get a therapist for him/her

Parenting consulting can be an excellent adjunct to therapy for your child. One does not replace the other. I have seen amazing results when parents spend the time and energy investing in learning how to improve their parenting skills. Additionally, if there are other children, the whole family will experience the positive effects of this work.

Is parenting consulting covered by insurance?

Although parent consulting is not covered by insurance companies, this work is an investment into the most important relationships in your life. Yes, I realize that it can be hard to find the time and money to devote to this work; but, think about how much better your life would be if you felt confident your relationship with your child was the best it could possibly be.

What if our child doesn’t respond well to the skills we learn?

It is possible that a positive change in your parenting style may not be initially well received by your child. Most change is often first met with resistance, and this work can take time. Although all your issues may not be resolved overnight, I can assure you that we will begin addressing your most pressing concerns immediately. Based on what is happening between you and your child, I will make any adjustments necessary to make you feel like you are moving in the right direction.

If you are having some difficulties with your child and want a parent consultant or if you have any further questions, I invite you to call me at 781-862-6772 for a free 15-minute phone consultation.