Do You Want a Strong, Healthy Marriage?

  • Are you and your partner thinking about getting married, but you’re unsure if the time is right?
  • Do you often wonder if getting married is the right decision for you and your partner?
  • Perhaps you doubt if you and your partner are right for each other.
  • Do you love your partner, and want to ensure that the foundation of your relationship is strong before you take this big step?
  • Are you and your partner already struggling to communicate your thoughts and emotions, and you’re worried that this will continue or even worsen?
  • Do you want to learn skills to ensure you have a successful long-term relationship?

DANIELLE DETORA_Premarital leavesYou remember falling in love with your partner — how wonderful and magical it was to finally feel safe with and empowered by another person. Now you may be thinking about marriage. You may already be engaged and preparing for the wedding. If this is you and you’re unsure if you and your partner will be a good long-term match, pre-martial counseling can help. Marriage a big commitment, and the truth is that many couples are never taught how to thrive in a life-long partnership. You may have already experienced some turbulence in your relationship and know that certain challenges will continue or may even worsen once you’re married. However, this doesn’t have to be the case.

Counseling before marriage can help you identify and alleviate the issues that cause discord in your relationship. Like any kind of illness, if it remains untreated, it may become worse. This means that if you and your partner are experiencing conflict and struggle now, chances are those issues won’t go away on their own. Premarital counseling can help you and your partner practice specific ways to turn your weaknesses into strengths, creating a better chance at a stable and satisfying marriage.

Every Couple Has Doubts About Commitment

It’s easy to fall in love. It’s much harder to stay in love. Because our society fantasizes romantic love with ideas like “the one”, it can be additionally difficult for couples to successfully navigate their problems when they come up. Some engaged couples consult premarital counseling books or online pre-marriage counseling questionnaires to feel more reassured and secure in their decision to get married. However, these books and questionnaires unfortunately cannot provide the actual skills couples need to effectively improve their relationship.

Getting married or committing to one person is truly a pivotal life-change, so it’s completely normal for you experience doubt about this big step. However, it’s important to know that having a stable, mutually satisfying marriage doesn’t just happen. It requires a certain level of communication and connection that many couples struggle with after the honeymoon period. Premarital counseling can help you and your partner communicate your needs and foster a long-lasting, loving bond.

Premarital Counseling Can Help You Have a Healthy Marriage

DANIELLE D_Premarital counselingPremarital counseling can provide invaluable resources to new couples. In fact, I believe all pre-engaged and engaged couples could improve their relationship and benefit from counseling. Couples therapy allows you and your partner to explore your innermost fears and desires in a unique space, outside the demands of daily life (including the stress of wedding planning). During our sessions together, I will help you and your partner address and explore a variety of topics that may influence your marriage, such as goals and expectations related to finances, intimacy, work, children, spirituality, conflicts and more.

In a safe, compassionate space, you and your partner can learn to connect in ways you never have before. You will learn how to communicate so that you feel more heard, understood and cared for. Together, we will clarify the dynamics of how your relationship functions and how that could play out in your marriage, which will help increase the stability and decrease any doubts or fears about commitment.

You may know that you love your partner or spouse but feel like things could be better.  The truth is, we all grow and change with every new experience that we have. As you grow and change, so does your partner and your relationship. It’s a natural process that can create shifts in how you feel and experience love. By working with an experienced, empathic therapist who understands what you’re going through, you and your partner can achieve a deeper, more flexible connection in your relationship.

When both partners bring a level of commitment to starting their marriage with a strong foundation, the results can be amazing. No matter what reasons you have for seeking pre-wedding counseling, I can help you both catapult your relationship into a new level of emotional connection and feel more confident in your decision to marry.

Although you understand the benefits of pre-martial counseling, you may still have some questions or concerns…

We have a good relationship already; I’m not sure we really need it.

Even couples who have been together a long time report learning new things about their partner and themselves that positively affect their relationship. Even if you and your partner already have a solid, healthy foundation, I can provide professional, objective advice that addresses potentially additional concerns, such as managing your finances or family planning.

Given the expenses of our upcoming wedding, we just don’t have the time and money right now.

I understand that therapy is a commitment and it’s hard to find the time and money to make it a priority. But, your relationship or marriage is one of the most important ones in your life. Think about how much more meaningful your wedding will be if you invest in improving your relationship. Taking the time to strengthen your relationship now can help you feel confident in your ability to maintain a positive connection throughout your life.

We don’t want to risk stirring up uncomfortable emotions right before our wedding.

My aim is to help you and your partner improve your relationship now so that you can enjoy a satisfying marriage in the future. The therapy process includes enhancing positive aspects of your relationship and strengthening facets that need work. Creating a safe space to communicate is a central part of this work. Any possible discomfort will soon become a catalyst for growth and change.

What kinds of couples do you work with?

I work with all types of couples:

  1. Heterosexual and GLBTQ
  2. Married, living together, dating for a few months or many years

If you are interested in improving your relationship before you get married,  I invite you to call me at 781-862-6772 for a free 15-minute phone consultation.