I help individuals
WHAT I DO
I truly believe that the key to leading a fuller authentic life is knowing how to:
Self reflect and know the origins of your thoughts, emotions and behaviors
Identify emotions and manage them effectively
Connect to yourself and others
In addition to feeling better, these skills will help increase your resilience so you have the strength and grace to handle whatever life throws at you.
Everyone’s journey of growth and healing is unique and based on their own stories, experiences, families, and relationships. I will help guide you on your journey.
Changing careers. Parenting challenges. Personal tragedies. Personal hardship. I have experienced all of these. I learned to face my vulnerabilities, self reflect, cope, and become more authentic and resilient. I am passionate about helping others achieve similar feelings of fulfillment.
It takes courage and vulnerability to begin —or continue — the process of healing through therapy. I respect that and always bring my authentic self to our sessions— that means you will experience me as real and human but also a psychologist with years of clinical experience and expertise. I will listen intently to you and what brings you to therapy in a comfortable, relaxed and engaging way. I will offer suggestions and ideas based on who you are, what you need and your lifestyle. I will help you build on skills to become emotionally healthier and resilient.
I am a licensed Clinical Psychologist with over 20 years experience. I am a Certified Imago Relationship Therapist and have received years of additional trainings in positive psychology, trauma, anxiety, grief, childhood emotional neglect, couples and relationships, and more. I earned a PsyD from William James College, an MA in Counseling Psychology from Lesley University and a BS from Tufts University.
HOW I CAN HELP
Do you worry about everything?
Do you feel wound up or on edge much of the time? Are you easily overwhelmed?
Do you feel dissatisfied with your life and you don’t know why?
Are you not as interested in the things you used to enjoy? Do you lack energy and motivation?
Are you frustrated and annoyed with people over minor things?
Have you suffered a loss and don’t know how to ‘move on’?
Do you feel like your relationship has changed over time?
Has it become less satisfying?
Do you feel disconnected from your partner?
Do you fight over the same issues over and over again with no resolution?
Do you wish you could feel closer to your partner emotionally?
Do you wish you could feel closer to your partner physically?
TIPS FROM DR. DETORA
Listening is one of the most important skills in nurturing a healthy relationship. I mean REALLY listening requires that you are completely focused on what is being said and you are not letting your own thoughts and ideas in.
Many of us simply struggle with this basic communication skill. Why? Because our minds are often thinking of so many things -- what is going on at work, issues with children or parents, what we want to do for fun, what tasks need attending to, etc. It is very difficult to put these thoughts aside and truly listen to another person -- to the point where we can repeat back what s/he said.
We can be looking straight into someone’s eyes and hearing him/her talk but most of the time we are not really listening. Like any other skill, it needs to be practiced and honed on a regular basis in order to be effective and healthy. Next time you are talking to your partner, try to listen differently. At the end of the conversation, ask “Do you feel like I really listened to you and heard what you were saying?” The answer might surprise you.